The PTSD Couple

The PTSD Couple

This weekend, I was at the Gottman Institute for PTSD and Affair Recovery. This training, in correlation with a previous training on Addiction recovery in couples therapy, is truly becoming one of the most powerful ways to help couples. As I reflect on the couples I...
Escape the Negative Cycle

Escape the Negative Cycle

When couples don’t see eye to eye, it’s easy to take offense, get defensive, shut down, put up walls, or even jump to worst case scenarios. Believe me, we all fall into one or more of these traps–even great marriages can slip into these negative...
Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

When a couple is recovering from an affair, re-establishing trust is the key component. If you’ve been hurt by this betrayal, you are probably asking: will it ever get better? Will I ever be able to trust again? Sometimes, even in situations that weren’t...
A Word From Eric: On Intimacy

A Word From Eric: On Intimacy

Okay, with the word intimacy, what comes into your mind? If you are a guy, you might be thinking of your wife or girlfriend giving you that look–you know the one–that has a bit of a tease telling you that she desires you as much as you want her. Hold...
10 Habits of Happy, Healthy Couples

10 Habits of Happy, Healthy Couples

While we always love sharing our stories with you, every once in a while we come across another article we simply have to share. Bustle.com recently released a post titled “10 Habits That All Happy, Healthy Couples Have.” Every single point is spot on,...
Recovering From An Affair

Recovering From An Affair

As a counselor and a coach, Sabrina and I are often asked, “How long will these feelings of hurt last?” That’s a tough question to answer. We offer a lot of resources for just that, and we also refer many couples to BeyondAffairs.com as another great source of...
Hold Me Tight

Hold Me Tight

In her incredible book, “Hold Me Tight,” Sue Johnson emphasizes the need for our beloved to literally hold us tight–to cuddle often, and in doing so to consistently feel very close. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you probably already...
The Importance of Respect

The Importance of Respect

We all desire respect from the ones we love and anyone else we have a relationship with. In the book Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs, a group of men was asked the question: If you had to choose between being on a desert island by yourself, trapped, or being in a...
There IS Hope For Change!

There IS Hope For Change!

Today, Eric and I had the opportunity to listen to world-renowned author, speaker, researcher and therapist Dr. Daniel Seigel speak. I was thrilled; I’ve been influenced by his work since grad school and, for the last couple of years, been continually shaped by...

Let’s Talk About Freedom

Freedom! That’s what we celebrate this weekend, isn’t it? But what about freedom in our relationships? Well, the very best relational freedom is not that different from the freedom our country enjoys. Certainly we are independent from the sovereignty of...
Protecting The Good Times

Protecting The Good Times

Welcome to Summer! It’s finally here: the season of good times, relaxing days, warm memories. The season of enjoying the outdoors, of picnics and wine tasting, of long drives through the country and watching the sunset so much later than before. Summer is...
The Happiness Chart

The Happiness Chart

Last week, we talked about whether or not happiness is a choice. Can we choose to be happy, after all? Well, when I discovered this chart by colleague Paul Smith, it seemed like the perfect follow up. Below are practical, every day things we all have the power to do...
Is Happiness A Choice?

Is Happiness A Choice?

The cold, hard fact is: Yes. Your happiness is actually your choice. I read a book by this title years ago, and often remind my clients of it. But when they hear me say it, they often look at me like I’m crazy — or insensitive. I admit, it doesn’t...
Can You Change Your Character?

Can You Change Your Character?

This week I’ve read two books that have proven to be pretty interrelated: Working with Emotional Intellegence by Daniel Goleman and Integrity by Henry Cloud. Both of these books are excellent reads for anyone who wants to build on their effectiveness in any...
Making YOUR Impact!

Making YOUR Impact!

This quarter in our classes, Eric and I are studying Personal Assessment. Specifically,we’re examining the cultural impact we hope to have with our lives and work. I couldn’t help but think about the difference Core Values makes in our world! Many people...
Go On An Adventure!

Go On An Adventure!

When was the last time you and your significant other did something a little wild? A little out-there? When did you throw caution to the wind and head out on an adventure together? Adventure can look very different to different couples. Maybe your adventure is found...