Couples Counseling
Rebuilding Trust and Connection in your Relationship
No one goes into a marriage relationship with the desire to hurt one another or with a belief this is a trial relationship. When we begin a relationship, we commit to growing together, to dream of what can be and try our hardest to please each other just like when we first started dating. But we all carry baggage from our past and have unmet expectations that we didn’t even know we had. We heap expectations on the other person which they can’t begin to fulfill, usually because we don’t communicate or even consciously know about.
It is time to step off the crazy cycle, as Emerson Eggerich would say, and just admit you don’t feel loved or respected. Questions genuinely asked like, “What have I done to make you feel unloved or not respected?” go a long way in rebuilding trust and connection. As we take partial ownership of this conflict we can begin to move in a positive direction.
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
At Core Values Counseling, our therapists use Gottman Method Couples Therapy with their couples clients. Gottman Method Couples Therapy is a resarch-based approach to couples therapy that focuses on strengthening Friendship, managing conflict and creating shared meaning within a relationship. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, it uses principles from their extensive research on marital stability and divorce prediction to help couples improve their communication, build intimacy, and create a more fulfilling relationship.
For a summary of what to expect from Gottman Method Couples Therapy, please read this informative Psychology Today article:
Couples Counseling 7 Protocols
Protocol for Couples Counseling with Core Values Counseling.
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- After being assigned a therapist, complete all the intake information, including taking the Core Values Index (CVI) assessment sent to you.
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- First Appointment: Intake with the therapist for a 80-minute session.
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Couples take Gottman Assessment (by email invitation from your therapist).
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Both individuals have separate 50-minute counseling appointments with their therapist to gather background history after you have completed the Gottman Online Relationship assessment.
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The couple has a 4th intake appointment where they will go over the Gottman Relationship checkup and map out a plan for future work.
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The couple will be invited to do an unpacking of the Core Values Index and create awareness of how each other is wired. This can be done a) with the therapist in session or b) an online unpacking or c) schedule a live zoom or in-person session with Life Coach Eric Walters.
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Next step
Once you have read through the 7 protocols, please fill out the new client counseling short form. You can view this video for more details about the 7 protocols.
Protocol for couples wishing to work with Core Values Counseling.
Optional choices that can support your relationship.
Neurofeedback
Couples Conferences
Couples Intensives / Marathon Therapy
We offer Intensive Therapy Sessions for couples wanting to jump-start their recovery. Learn more about our Couples Intensives here.
Individual Counseling
Individual sessions are available with counselors/coaches using a variety of tools and methods. Sessions can include but are not limited to: personal goals, attuning to spouse and children as needed, finances, and/or creating a more enjoyable experiences with those around you.
Cost and Insurance Information:
At Core Values Counseling, we have a wide range of fees for counseling/therapy. Fees are based on the level of experience and types of training the therapists have. We also offer telehealth therapy sessions for residents of Oregon state. Call us at 503-869-8108 or fill out the New Client Form to get started. Approximate costs are below.
Student Interns
50 – 80 min counseling sessions
50 min $200 // 80 min $250
State Registered Associates
50 – 80 min counseling sessions
50 min $200 // 80 min $250
Licensed Therapists
50 – 80 min counseling sessions
starting at 50 min $225 // 80 min $300
The Art and Science of Love
Discover The Art and Science of Love at our world-renowned weekend conference for couples created by Drs. John and Julie Gottman and see for yourself why millions of couples worldwide have benefited from the Gottman Method.
- 2 days filled with engaging presentations and experiential activities designed to confirm, strengthen, or restore your love
- Couples will receive a physical box set of workshop materials
- For couples of every age, ability, and sexual orientation
Times:
Saturday – 8:30am to 5pm / Sunday – 8:30am to 5pm
Location:
Holiday Inn Portland West – Hillsboro