by Sabrina Walters | Mar 31, 2021 | Affair Recovery, Relationships
Whenever there has been a breach of trust in a relationship, the offended partner will experience triggers at the most unexpected and sometimes inopportune moments. “Why are you looking at your phone?” “Where are you going?” “What are you...
by Sabrina Walters | Mar 24, 2021 | Communication
Watch the video here. One of the most essential parts of living in relationship — whether that’s a partner, child, friend, roommate, or coworker — is knowing how to apologize. We all mess up. We all make mistakes. And we all disappoint each other....
by Sabrina Walters | Mar 18, 2021 | Counseling, Couples
Is there anything more joyful than sharing good news with your partner? I got the job! I aced the test! We got the house! It’s a boy! Sharing in the joy of triumph, accomplishment, or good fortune is all the sweeter with a partner to celebrate with us. Getting...
by Sabrina Walters | Mar 9, 2021 | Counseling, Health
It’s officially been a year since all this really got started. A year since I’ve stopped seeing clients in person (telehealth appointments are available for those interested), a year since we all started wearing masks, a year since — most significant for many of us —...
by Sabrina Walters | Dec 29, 2020 | Counseling, Motivation, Spiritual
“Our human compassion binds us the one to the other – not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future.” – Nelson Mandela After the year we’ve had, who wants to bother dreaming? Who wants...
by Sabrina Walters | Dec 15, 2020 | Family, Motivation, Spiritual
Photo by Ben White on Unsplash There’s no denying the holidays are different this year. The pandemic has put a wrench in everything, and while hope is certainly on the horizon, a lot of us will be unable to participate in the traditions we’re used to....
by Sabrina Walters | Dec 8, 2020 | Conflict, Family
Whether your family is getting together in person or over Zoom this holiday season, family conflict can always be a particular stressor. As 2020 draws to a close, that might be more true this year than ever before — when even the discussion of when and how to...
by Sabrina Walters | Dec 1, 2020 | Couples, Relationships
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Recently, I’ve been reading the book “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality” by Peter Scazzero, and I’m loving the insights there. One description in particular stood out to me the other day: he described triggers in our relationships as...
by Sabrina Walters | Nov 17, 2020 | Motivation
Everyone thinks of January as the time to set goals for the new year, but here at Core Values Counseling, we just finished our goals and planning meeting for 2021. I have to admit, when we first started talking about having a goals meeting as early as November? I...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 27, 2020 | Couples
Photo by Tanya Trofymchuk on Unsplash If you’ve ever read the Gottman book, “And Baby Makes Three”, you’ve read the study that shows that one of the most important ways to maintain marital satisfaction after having a baby is for the father to take on a more...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 20, 2020 | Couples, Marriage
Photo by Isaac Ordaz on Unsplash When there is an issue that you’re bumping up against in your relationship, it’s good to remember the very basic skill of the gentle start up. If you find yourself becoming resentful for whatever reason, remember to bring that up...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 13, 2020 | Couples, Marriage
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Most couples have some kind of system for who does which household chores. However, it can be easy to get stuck in a system that may have worked once years ago, but now isn’t serving its purpose — and one or both of you are unhappy...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 6, 2020 | Conflict, Health
Photo by David Wirzba on Unsplash In the course of 2020, we’ve all experienced a massive collective trauma, haven’t we? I heard a talk recently that covered this, and the speaker brought up an excellent point. He talked about how trauma is processed: if trauma of any...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 5, 2020 | Family
Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash. Here in Oregon, kids have gone back to school online — which means there’s more pressure on parents than ever before. Parents have been required to take on a much larger role in the process of teaching in this new virtual school...
by Sabrina Walters | Oct 5, 2020 | Conflict
Photo by engin akyurt on Unsplash I don’t know about you, but this year just keeps on giving…me stress and anxiety. I have really felt it lately, especially in Oregon, where we have been contending with unprecedented fires! I’m actually getting weary of hearing...
by Sabrina Walters | Sep 8, 2020 | Couples, Intimacy, Relationships
Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash Quarantine has forced most of us the world over inside for far longer than we’re used to. Certain milestones and events seem light years away! For me and my family, a weekend brunch has always been a special way to celebrate and...
by Sabrina Walters | Sep 1, 2020 | Communication, Conflict, Health
Photo by Joshua Newton on Unsplash This year has been tough for everyone — I know I’m certainly feeling it. Take a minute to check in with yourself. How are you feeling? Is there a chance you’re feeling more lonely? For some people, the answer to this question is...
by Sabrina Walters | Aug 25, 2020 | Health, Social media
Photo by William Iven on Unsplash How many hours a day do you think you spend in front of a screen? How about your partner? A lot of times, it’s easier to notice how often our partner does this — checking their phone during your together-time, scrolling Facebook while...
by Sabrina Walters | Aug 18, 2020 | Core Values Counseling
Photo by Tim Mossholder on Unsplash A breach of trust can come in many forms. Whether it’s hiding certain financial decisions, emotional or physical affairs, a gambling habit, or other addiction — when you discover something negative about your partner it can be...
by Sabrina Walters | Aug 11, 2020 | Couples, Intimacy, Marriage
Photo by MIKHAIL VASILYEV on Unsplash I’ve been seeing a recurring theme with a lot of my clients: How do you maintain a healthy relationship in close spaces without having the distance you’re used to? Being cooped up together can be tough, no matter how emotionally...
