Every so often, I hand the pen to someone who knows this work — and our marriage — from the inside. My husband Eric has spent years studying what makes relationships thrive, and his doctoral research on shared meaning has genuinely shaped the way I think about couples...
One of the most tender — and often overlooked — parts of recovery is this: You don’t just rebuild sobriety. You rebuild understanding. Because addiction doesn’t just create distance — it replaces knowing with guessing — guessing what your partner...
One of the most common questions couples ask after an affair is: Can we ever truly recover from this? The answer is sometimes yes — but the process requires patience, honesty, and a willingness to walk through some very difficult territory together....
When couples seek therapy after an affair, they are often hoping for guidance on how to move forward. But what many people don’t realize is that affair recovery is very different from traditional couples therapy. And without the right approach, therapy...
Few experiences shake a relationship as deeply as discovering that your partner has been involved in an affair. For the hurt partner, the moment of discovery often feels like an emotional earthquake. Whether the truth comes from a third party, a message on a...
Valentine’s Day has a way of turning love inward. Are my needs being met? Do I feel chosen? Am I enough? Those questions are understandable — but when they take over, we can lose sight of something important: love is also about shared meaning. About what...
