How To Attune To Your Partner

Attuning to your partner emotionally is one of the most important ways to build a lasting connection of trust and safety. We all need to know that our feelings are understood — even if they might be a little irrational. What’s especially important to remember as you attune to your partner is this:Empathizing with their emotions Read more about How To Attune To Your Partner[…]

How To Deal When Your Partner Has More Vacay Than You

Many of you are aware that Eric is still a teacher, and therefore essentially has two and a half months off every summer. Me, I’m a therapist and don’t get time off unless I take it. There can be a lot of benefits to this system — I get a house-husband for a while and can put him Read more about How To Deal When Your Partner Has More Vacay Than You[…]

How To Speak Your Partner’s Language

I was working with a couple recently, and they were getting stuck on an issue that plagues a lot of us. One partner, let’s call her Lily, was much less interested in romance than her husband (let’s call him Rich). Rich wanted to go on dates with his wife, get out of the house, go out to Read more about How To Speak Your Partner’s Language[…]

Preparing Your Relationship For A Medical Crisis

If you, your partner or child, a parent or other immediate family member, becomes diagnosed with a long-term illness, gets severely injured, or faces some other medical crisis, it will obviously affect your relationship. We know this, and yet we don’t like to spend much time planning for that possibility. The thing is: Life is long. If you’re with Read more about Preparing Your Relationship For A Medical Crisis[…]

10 Honest Wedding Vows

Wedding vows: creating a covenant with your beloved, in front of witnesses, swearing to love each other until death do you part. But does that include doing the dishes? Does it include keeping quiet when we haven’t had breakfast yet, because who knows what we’ll say when we’re ‘hangry’? They don’t normally cover those things in your Read more about 10 Honest Wedding Vows[…]

16 Amazing Stay-at-Home Date Night Ideas

I hope you’ll indulge me for a moment, because I really want to take this opportunity to brag on my incredible daughter-in-law (or, as I like to say, ‘daughter-in-LOVE’). She’s recently started a blog called “My Daughter’s Table,” all about parenting and cooking for a daughter with extensive food allergies. It’s a really wonderful blog with amazing Read more about 16 Amazing Stay-at-Home Date Night Ideas[…]

When Was The Last Time You Made Time For Fun?

When was the last time you made time for FUN with your partner? As therapists and leaders of couples’ workshops, we will be the first to tell you that great relationships take work. They do! That’s part and parcel of a long-term commitment. But great relationships also need high doses of fun, adventure, and joy — just as much Read more about When Was The Last Time You Made Time For Fun?[…]

Supporting Your Partner’s Dreams

When you’ve been in a long-term relationship for, well, a pretty long time, it’s common to develop a rhythm, a schedule, a sense of what’s ‘normal’ for your life together. And when your partner suddenly decides they want to change that normalcy with a new dream or goal, it can feel pretty disconcerting. Maybe you’re used to having Read more about Supporting Your Partner’s Dreams[…]

What To Do When You Suspect Your Partner

As we discussed on our blog from last week, social media can provide a temptation to the best of us. But what do you do if you suspect that your partner has already made those connections? This can be a horrible feeling. But, first of all, resist the urge to try and ‘catch them out.’ This is your partner, not your Read more about What To Do When You Suspect Your Partner[…]

Asking Your Partner For Alone Time

Do you need alone time as part of your own self-care? Sometimes, when we’re in a long-term relationship, asking for alone time can feel strange. You love your partner, and you love being together, but sometimes one of you just needs more alone time than the other. Depending on your CVI score and personality type, we all have Read more about Asking Your Partner For Alone Time[…]