Every so often, I hand the pen to someone who knows this work — and our marriage — from the inside. My husband Eric has spent years studying what makes relationships thrive, and his doctoral research on shared meaning has genuinely shaped the way I think about couples...
When a relationship has been shaped by addiction, it’s easy to focus on what went wrong. Because during addiction, there are often so many negative events — things that went sideways, conversations that escalated, moments that left lasting hurt. The fights. The...
One of the most tender — and often overlooked — parts of recovery is this: You don’t just rebuild sobriety. You rebuild understanding. Because addiction doesn’t just create distance — it replaces knowing with guessing — guessing what your partner...
One of the most common questions couples ask after an affair is: Can we ever truly recover from this? The answer is sometimes yes — but the process requires patience, honesty, and a willingness to walk through some very difficult territory together....
When couples seek therapy after an affair, they are often hoping for guidance on how to move forward. But what many people don’t realize is that affair recovery is very different from traditional couples therapy. And without the right approach, therapy...
Children are emotional mirrors. They don’t just listen to what we say — they absorb what we embody. If you’ve ever noticed your child becoming more dysregulated when you’re overwhelmed, or settling more quickly when you stay grounded, you’ve witnessed emotional...
