How To Attune To Your Partner

Attuning to your partner emotionally is one of the most important ways to build a lasting connection of trust and safety. We all need to know that our feelings are understood — even if they might be a little irrational. What’s especially important to remember as you attune to your partner is this:Empathizing with their emotions[…]

How To Speak Your Partner’s Language

I was working with a couple recently, and they were getting stuck on an issue that plagues a lot of us. One partner, let’s call her Lily, was much less interested in romance than her husband (let’s call him Rich). Rich wanted to go on dates with his wife, get out of the house, go out to[…]

Preparing Your Relationship For Children

Every couple is different. For some of us, the first year of marriage is awesome — for some of us, it’s incredibly stressful. Some couples adjust to children quickly and easily, but the majority of us have a much more difficult transition. For every new experience, of course, there’s a honeymoon — when everything seems like a dream, because it’s new[…]

16 Amazing Stay-at-Home Date Night Ideas

I hope you’ll indulge me for a moment, because I really want to take this opportunity to brag on my incredible daughter-in-law (or, as I like to say, ‘daughter-in-LOVE’). She’s recently started a blog called “My Daughter’s Table,” all about parenting and cooking for a daughter with extensive food allergies. It’s a really wonderful blog with amazing[…]

When Was The Last Time You Made Time For Fun?

When was the last time you made time for FUN with your partner? As therapists and leaders of couples’ workshops, we will be the first to tell you that great relationships take work. They do! That’s part and parcel of a long-term commitment. But great relationships also need high doses of fun, adventure, and joy — just as much[…]

Supporting Your Partner’s Dreams

When you’ve been in a long-term relationship for, well, a pretty long time, it’s common to develop a rhythm, a schedule, a sense of what’s ‘normal’ for your life together. And when your partner suddenly decides they want to change that normalcy with a new dream or goal, it can feel pretty disconcerting. Maybe you’re used to having[…]

What To Do When You Suspect Your Partner

As we discussed on our blog from last week, social media can provide a temptation to the best of us. But what do you do if you suspect that your partner has already made those connections? This can be a horrible feeling. But, first of all, resist the urge to try and ‘catch them out.’ This is your partner, not your[…]