As we get ready for one of my favorite holiday, I’m reminded of the value of gratitude in your relationships. According to Gottman research, the most successful way to turn around contempt in your relationship is with intentional appreciation. But if...
A lot of times when a relationship goes through a big reveal — someone had an affair years ago, or they’re addicted to some substance — it can feel like your partner is suddenly a completely different person. How could this person you thought you knew so...
Today as I finished my book review for “The Prophetic Imagination,” I was able to share some of my insights with my son, Thomas, who happens to relate deeply to the idea of the ‘prophetic.’ To be honest, this was not an easy read for me — but as I read back...
These past few weeks Eric and I have been assessing our community by ASKING others what they see happening that is good, where the needs are and what breaks their hearts for relationships. It’s a cold-call process that’s part of our doctoral study, and it’s been...
How can our own wounds, despite being painful, become powerful healing compounds to our relationship? It’s kind of mysterious how this works. Shared pain is actually a way to mobilization. Moving through the pain of the wound together is a way to not only...
Have you ever wondered how a once healthy and vital relationship can hit the skids? We all know it doesn’t happen overnight, but do we know how it begins to erode away? Of course, it can happen in a million different ways, but the most significant one I’ve...
