In relationships, our words carry immense weight. The way we talk about our partners, whether to them or others, has a profound impact — not only on our partner but on ourselves, our relationship, and even those around us. Think of it as choosing the lens...
In the world of love, sometimes the smallest gestures create the most profound effects, and kissing is a perfect example. Research into the neurobiology of couples shows that kissing isn’t just a romantic act — it’s a powerful chemical experience that connects...
It’s fascinating to think about what happens in the brain when we’re in love. With advances in neuroimaging like fMRI, researchers like Daniel Siegel can actually observe how the brain “lights up” in response to love — activating in ways similar to the effects...
As those of you with kids settle into the new school year, I’ve been sharing some gentle parenting-inspired advice to help your family have a smoother, less stressful fall. So far, we’ve talked about attachment and transitions, rituals and emotions, how to help...
Over the last few weeks, I’ve shared some gentle parenting insights to help you and your kids have an easier start to the school year. We talked about attachment and transitions, rituals and emotions, and how to help your kids navigate anxiety. But let’s be...
Recently, I shared with you some gentle parenting tips for an easier start to the school year, focusing on attachment and transitions, as well as rituals and emotions. While these tools can be helpful, there’s almost no getting around the elephant in the room:...
In my last post, I shared some suggestions on gentle parenting for making the start of the school year easier. I explained how attachment is key to gentle parenting and how preparing for big transitions can help honor that attachment while also fostering...
Can you believe it’s almost the end of September? If you’re a parent with kids at home, you’re likely a couple weeks into the new school year (at least, you are if you’re in the Portland, Oregon area!). I hope you’ve found your groove and that the transition...
In the rush of daily life, couples can sometimes lose sight of the bigger picture. We get caught up in to-do lists, work responsibilities, and other demands. But just like a business thrives on having a vision and a plan for the future, so does a relationship. It’s...
Conflict is an inevitable part of any relationship, but it doesn’t have to be destructive. When approached with compassion and understanding, conflict can actually strengthen the bond between partners. At Core Values Counseling, we believe in empowering couples...
In the hustle of everyday life, it’s easy for fun to slip through the cracks in a relationship. Yet playfulness and shared joy are essential components of a healthy, thriving partnership. The good news is that it’s never too late to infuse your...
If you enjoyed The Art and Science of Love couples workshop, you won’t want to miss The Art and Science of Love 2, coming this September 28-29, 2024! How have things been going since the last workshop? It can be challenging to maintain momentum once...
In our journey through the world of fatherhood, we’ve explored why fathers are so crucial in their children’s lives and how their presence shapes emotional development. From understanding their unique role to practical tips for connecting emotionally and...
In our ongoing series on fatherhood, we’ve explored the importance of emotional connection and the profound impact fathers have on their children’s lives. Today, we delve into a crucial aspect of fatherhood: managing anger. Anger, if not controlled, can damage...
A few weeks back, I introduced you to Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD, a friend and fellow therapist who’s an expert on the impact and importance of fathering. One of our recent conversations yielded a treasure trove of insights I wanted to share with my...
Earlier this year, my husband, Eric, and I set out on a practical yet super fun relationship adventure and shared firsthand our experience working through one of my favorite books. In Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, John Gottman,...
In my last blog post, I introduced you to Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield, PhD, one of my dear friends and a fellow therapist who happens to be an expert on the subject of fathering — particularly, father-daughter relationships. I shared some excerpts of a recent...
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about dads and fatherhood — and the immensely important role fathers have in our families and our world. Eric is a first-rate dad. And we have three amazing sons who are all now dads, too. I’m fortunate to bear witness...
This week, Eric and I get to wrap up our exploration of Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams. One by one, we’ve done the dates and brought you along for the...
Eric and I are nearing the end of our exploration of Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams. Over the past few weeks, we’ve given you an over-the-shoulder view...
