The holiday season is nearly upon us. And with it, gathering. In my last post, I shared about how important it is to set expectations (LMFT Kati Morton has a great video on how to do just that, by the way). In tandem with setting expectations, it’s important to also...
Gathering. There are so many ways we do this all year long, with our friends, our extended family, and our partners. We gather for events big and small, but regardless of size, the best gatherings have one thing in common: everyone is on the same page about...
In a recent blog post, we shared an overview of how to understand gridlock (and make it better). We followed that up by sharing two real-world examples of gridlock from our own practice. Today, we’re taking a closer look at what the Gottmans call dreams within...
In our last blog post, we introduced a tough subject: Understanding Gridlock — And How You Can Make It Better. Gridlock is all too common in romantic relationships. After all, 69% of problems in these relationships are what the Gottmans call “perpetual problems,” so...
If you’re familiar with some of the Gottman Institute concepts (and if you’ve been around Core Values Counseling for any length of time), you’ve probably heard us mention gridlock. According to the Gottmans, “almost all gridlocked conflicts stem from...
Over the last few weeks, we’ve been discussing the seven pillars of connection that are foundational to every romantic relationship and essential to our work here at Core Values Counseling. Each of us has needs for connection in seven distinct areas: Emotional...
