Something to Look Forward To

Something to Look Forward To

Photo by Ben White on Unsplash There’s no denying the holidays are different this year. The pandemic has put a wrench in everything, and while hope is certainly on the horizon, a lot of us will be unable to participate in the traditions we’re used to....
An Antidote For Holiday Conflict

An Antidote For Holiday Conflict

Whether your family is getting together in person or over Zoom this holiday season, family conflict can always be a particular stressor. As 2020 draws to a close, that might be more true this year than ever before — when even the discussion of when and how to...
Allergic Reactions In Relationships

Allergic Reactions In Relationships

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Recently, I’ve been reading the book “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality” by Peter Scazzero, and I’m loving the insights there. One description in particular stood out to me the other day: he described  triggers in our relationships as...
Planning Early For New Year Goals

Planning Early For New Year Goals

Everyone thinks of January as the time to set goals for the new year, but here at Core Values Counseling, we just finished our goals and planning meeting for 2021. I have to admit, when we first started talking about having a goals meeting as early as November? I...
Gender Roles In Relationships

Gender Roles In Relationships

Photo by Tanya Trofymchuk on Unsplash If you’ve ever read the Gottman book, “And Baby Makes Three”, you’ve read the study that shows that one of the most important ways to maintain marital satisfaction after having a baby is for the father to take on a more...
The Gentle Start Up

The Gentle Start Up

Photo by Isaac Ordaz on Unsplash When there is an issue that you’re bumping up against in your relationship, it’s good to remember the very basic skill of the gentle start up. If you find yourself becoming resentful for whatever reason, remember to bring that up...
Dividing Up Household Chores

Dividing Up Household Chores

Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash Most couples have some kind of system for who does which household chores. However, it can be easy to get stuck in a system that may have worked once years ago, but now isn’t serving its purpose — and one or both of you are unhappy...
Some Resources For Stress

Some Resources For Stress

Photo by engin akyurt on Unsplash I don’t know about you, but this year just keeps on giving…me stress and anxiety. I have really felt it lately, especially in Oregon, where we have been contending with unprecedented fires! I’m actually getting weary of hearing...