The Danger of Relational Assumptions

The Danger of Relational Assumptions

Photo by Luis Tosta on Unsplash The assumptions — and the baggage — that we bring into our marriages can make a big difference in our long term relationship. When we come into marriage without knowing what the other’s assumptions are about all the main topics (money,...

Support For You During the COVID-19 Crisis

We are, all of us, facing an incredibly stressful and tumultuous global pandemic. Our hearts, prayers, and hope go out to everyone who’s feeling overwhelmed during this time, and especially to those dealing with the stress of healthcare or quarantine. Do you or...

It’s Goal Season

Happy New Year! 2020 is finally upon us, and right on schedule is the expectation that everyone — EVERYONE — is setting big, grand goals for the year. So what about you? Any New Year’s resolutions? Or perhaps you’re a bit sick of reading/hearing that question, for one...

When The Holidays Aren’t So Jolly

The holidays are supposed to be romantic — full of joy and togetherness and hope. But what do you do when this season is laced with heartbreak? How do you face the holidays when you’ve just had a relational split? A divorce, a breakup, or worst of all, a death in the...

Don’t fight it

Have you ever heard your partner say, “I just wish I could figure this out!” Or perhaps, “Why am I so stressed all the time?!” Maybe it’s more like, “I shouldn’t be this irritated.” It’s all different versions of...

A Practice in Romance

I know someone who recently revealed a new habit she and her husband were starting to build. Every night, before they go to bed, they each list three things they’re grateful for — about each other. “I’m thankful you were so sensitive and caring when I got upset...

Our Ministry Retreat

This last week, we were honored to host a retreat for three pastors and their partners at the Dreamgiver’s Inn in Newberg, Oregon. We know all too well how, when you’re in a profession of serving others, often you just really need someone to stop and serve you. That’s...

Autumnal Romance

When it comes to the seasons, I think Spring tends to get most of the credit for being romantic. All those budding flowers and fresh new days of sunshine; everyone’s thinking about first dates. But Autumn, I have to say, deserves a little credit, too! This season can...

One Day At A Time

When we have goals — whether those are individual goals or relationship goals — we tend to want to see results now. As soon as I write my goals out, I’m looking around trying to see the results — and I know I’m not alone in this! We want to meal plan together, or go...