In my last post, I shared some suggestions on gentle parenting for making the start of the school year easier. I explained how attachment is key to gentle parenting and how preparing for big transitions can help honor that attachment while also fostering independence.
Today, I’m sharing two more elements that I think will help get this school year off to the right start for your family: creating meaningful rituals and encouraging emotional expression. Here we go!
Creating Meaningful Rituals
Rituals can significantly ease the transition into school life. Children thrive on routine and knowing what to expect. Consider establishing morning and evening rituals that foster a sense of security.
Remember the Gottmans’ rituals of connection? That applies to your kids as well as your spouse! In fact, the Gottmans consider rituals of connection “the antidote to big emotions and challenging behaviors.” Sounds like a win for everyone, right?
For many of us, morning rituals are key. How do you wake your child? Some might enjoy a cheerful song to start their day, while others might prefer a gentle nudge or a quiet cuddle. Take the time to help them acclimate to the day ahead.
Bedtime routines are equally important. Aim to turn off screens at least an hour before bed and enjoy a family meal together a couple of hours prior. Simple practices like family walks or sharing highs and lows from the day can foster connection and open up conversations. Children need to know what to expect, especially during times of change.
Encouraging Emotional Expression
As your child embarks on the adventure of this new school year, there’s one important way you can help them be successful: encourage them to continue sharing their feelings. Pay attention to any changes in their behavior — perhaps they become more clingy or assert their independence.
Remind them that it’s entirely okay to feel nervous about starting school. You might say, “It’s normal to feel a little scared about new things. I’m here for you!”
Or if you sense your child struggling to pack their backpack or tie their shoes — all the while digging in their heels — you might offer, “It’s understandable you want to do this on your own right now, and I’m so proud of you. I want to help you be successful with this.”
Validate their feelings, and ask for what you need in order to help them.
Also, prepare them for any disruptions in their routines, such as a family date night or special event. Inform them in advance so they have time to process any changes, allowing for those big feelings to emerge and be shared.
Starting school is a significant step for both you and your child. By approaching this transition with a gentle parenting mindset, you can help your child feel secure and loved as they embark on this new journey. Remember, it’s all about nurturing the connection and supporting their growth.
Cheers to a new school year! Now go give yourselves a pat on the back, parents.
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