In two of our recent posts, I talked about discovering the gifts of your highest core value, as well as how to understand your conflict style in the context of the Core Values Index™. Today, I’d like to take this one step further (as promised!) and help you understand...
Last week, we talked about how the Core Values Index™ helps you (and your partner!) to understand the unchanging, innate DNA of your soul. We talked about the gifts and the strengths of each core value — Builder, Merchant, Innovator, and Banker — as well as the...
Thanksgiving, like any major holiday, is packed with emotions, memories from seasons past, current family tensions, and the losses of the past few years. Perhaps your Thanksgiving is filled with memories from your childhood. Mine certainly is! I think...
In a recent post, we talked about why accepting influence can revolutionize your relationship. Today, let’s take that a step further. I’d like to help you understand how to accept influence — and give you a few tools to use in your everyday life. Welcoming your...
Do you find yourself regularly and intentionally being open to the ideas and opinions of your partner? Does your partner do the same for you? The Gottmans refer to this important relationship dynamic as accepting influence. It’s a skill and a habit that really has the...
A wise person once said, “Hidden resentments poison a relationship. So if something bothers you, say it.” The Gottmans take an even more nuanced view of hidden resentments: under that conflict, there is most likely a hidden dream. Most conflicts in relationships are...
