In my last post, I introduced the three phases of repair you’ll need to walk through with your partner after a major breach of trust: atone, attune, and attach. (These are based on extensive research from the Gottman Institute.) We talked about atonement in detail....
I am convinced that kindness and gratitude are integrally linked. We often don’t even think about kindness, but often we are unkind, especially to the ones we love most. Why is that? Why do we take for granted the love of the one person dearest to us? I think it is...
In counseling — and in life, in general! — we talk a lot about emotions. But have you ever considered why you engage with and process your emotions (or don’t) the way you do? Lately, in my practice, I have become increasingly aware of how important it is to understand...
When working on our interpersonal relationships, especially our relationship with our spouse, it’s important to understand how the synapses in our brain help us feel heard, seen, and held. Empathy is a critical piece of the puzzle here. And it’s key to understanding...
In my last blog post, I shared some suggestions for different ways to gather with family. We talked about reframing how you think about family gatherings and what they look like for your unique family. Sometimes, a little change is called for to make everyone’s lives...
Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve shared some tips for how to prepare your heart and mind for the approaching holiday season — and all the gathering that comes along with it. We talked about the importance of setting expectations, as well as how to embrace the gift...
