March 28, 2019

Childhood Behavior Issues

Alexander’s  Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst depicts a little boy with a series of really bad things. But what if that is your child’s everyday experience? Are you frustrated? At the end of your rope? Has your child’s behavior gotten out of control? Are you tired of getting calls from the school reporting out of control behavior of your child? Are you exasperated and finding it difficult to communicate with your child? Are the tantrums out of control?

It is normal for your child to have some anxiety, stress or sadness that turns to melt-downs. However, if your child is having a hard time coping with his emotions and has begun exhibiting hostility, picking fights, or refusing to go to school, among many different behaviors, he or she may need help coping.  When normal activities of everyday life overwhelm your child and take away his or her joy (and everyone else’s as well), even to the point of not being able to function, then we have a problem that must be addressed.

If you are up against these kinds of behavioral issues (or others not listed) with your child, you are not alone. Whether it is an anxiety response, ADHD, a negative response to adjustment, there is a reason your child is having these behaviors and we are here to help you sort it out and find ways to shift and change these behaviors so that everyone’s lives can be more peaceful and happy. It will be important to determine the right path forward for your child. Our job is to help you determine what is causing the disruptions and the best treatment model for optimal results.

It can be so hard to find the right help for your child. Who can you trust with one of the most precious people in your life?  At Core Values Counseling we want to personalize your child’s experience. We have compassionate and well-trained counselors along with Neurofeedback therapy and Equine Assisted Psychotherapy that can help your family begin this journey successfully. We usually use several modes of therapy to bring equilibrium back to your child’s life and the life of your family.

We use a Neurofeedback program called Brainpaint. Neurofeedback is a scientifically proven way to improve how we feel and function in the world by enhancing how our brain operates. Neurofeedback is especially helpful in working with children because their brain is being developed. It can help your child’s brain heal and recover from the cause of the disruptive behavior and the impact it has had on his or her life. Clients have noticed significant decreases in anxiety, alleviating feelings of depression, decreased out of control behavior, decreased tearfulness and crying,  better sleep, fewer nightmares, and increased the ability to cope with life’s challenges. This type of therapy works well when done in conjunction with play therapy, family therapy, or other therapies.

Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP)is also offered through Core Values Counseling. EAP is a new model for the treatment of anxiety, depression and disruptive behavior and has been found in recent research studies to help people overcome these trying times by interactions with horses on the ground (vs. riding). Horses have mirror neurons which they use to mirror the emotions of the people working with them. At Core Values Counseling we welcome families to come to a farm outside of Newberg where we offer this unique form of therapy in conjunction with other therapies to address a variety of issues with children in many different ways rather than only the traditional talk therapy and medications. We also offer group therapy for children using EAP when we have enough youth to form a group.

When your child is struggling it can be so painful. All you want is relief, strategies, and tools to help them find better ways to cope with their emotions.  We understand and we will need your help to help your child. Children need everyone in their family working together, so we will be doing a combination of family therapy and play/talk therapy. The more approaches we use with children the more support you will all feel. We also understand there are no easy or quick solutions. It takes time for change to happen, and we are here to partner with you and your child as you move forward.

Counseling can be both scary and intimidating at first. Making the investment of time and money, along with adding something else to your family’s busy schedule can be difficult. Your child and your family are worth the investment! Your child’s future and his or her healing are worth every minute and every penny. We will give your child and your family tools that will last a lifetime of dealing with the many inevitable transitions that you will face in the future.

With the variety of tools and resources we have at Core Values Counseling, from warm, safe and compassionate therapists, to Neurofeedback, to Equine Assisted Therapy, we can personalize your child’s counseling experience and tailor the therapy to what works best for his or her healing. Incorporating Neurofeedback will help your child’s brain reset and shift to a less heightened state, while play therapy and family therapy will help you and your child understand triggers,  manage responses to triggers, understand why he or she reacts in this way and build a toolkit for dealing with difficult times in the future. We also have resources and referrals if medication or physical therapy would be helpful. We will work with your pediatrician to ensure all the health care professionals are working together to benefit your child best.

We are here for you. You can read the profiles of our therapists here. You are welcome to contact us Here to ask questions or set-up an appointment, we will get back to you within 24 hours. Taking the first step toward healthy change is courageous and powerful.