Over five years ago, we shared this TED talk with you, along with our thoughts on the subject. While it’s certainly been a while, it seems like this particular subject has never been more relevant. Our world seems to grow more stressful by the day — so it’s more important than ever for your home to be a safe haven for your children. That means your relationship with your partner needs to be healthy. Have you considered how your own childhood affects your relationships today? How about how your relationships might affect your children?
Take a few minutes to watch this important TED talk, and let us know what you think. Our thoughts from 2017 are included below as well — but they certainly could have been written just yesterday.
This Ted talk speaks to a very important issue: how childhood trauma affects children throughout their lifetime.
What so many people don’t understand is the damage we do to our own children when we don’t directly deal with our own issues. Whether it’s addiction, our own childhood trauma, or the inability to deal with stress in a healthy way, if we don’t deal with it, we pass it on — or we may even pass on something worse. When couples continue to have heated, angry (especially verbally or physically abusive) arguments in front of or within their children’s earshot, it causes lasting damage…maybe even brain damage.
Our homes need to be a shelter against the storm; there is enough trauma in the world already, and children need a safe place from that. Home should not be the very place they feel the most uncertain! We at Core Values Couples are passionate about helping to prevent abusive relationships and transform those relationships in the danger zone. Is there any better reason than your children (or future children) to dive in and work hard for the best relationship possible?