When a relationship has been shaped by addiction, it’s easy to focus on what went wrong. Because during addiction, there are often so many negative events — things that went sideways, conversations that escalated, moments that left lasting hurt. The fights. The...
One of the most tender — and often overlooked — parts of recovery is this: You don’t just rebuild sobriety. You rebuild understanding. Because addiction doesn’t just create distance — it replaces knowing with guessing — guessing what your partner...
For a long time, the “gold standard” in addiction recovery was this: the person struggling with substance use needed to focus only on themselves for at least a year. No couples therapy. No family work. No real attention to the relationship. Just recovery...
The part of the brain that gets triggered by cocaine is the same place we get triggered by romantic love. The difference being, of course, that you get to come down from cocaine — but you can’t come down from romantic love too easily. As this Ted Talk explains...
