I’ve noticed in my practice that those who have the lowest rate of anxiety and stress-related issue are Builders. Builders have the confidence to get things done that precludes anxiety; they inherently have faith in themselves, and believe they have the power to do...
Last week we talked about Banker/Builder — the types with a more practical, get-er-done force pushing them onward. But if you are Merchant or Innovator, based in Love and Wisdom, chances are you like to think outside the box — or you might at least like to...
If you are a high Builder or Banker, you might be a force to be reckoned with. You’ve got high energy, you’ve got practical skills, you know what to do and when you need to do it — but do you ever find that it rubs your loved ones in the wrong way?...
One thing I’ve noticed lately is that people who are not merchants in their first, second, or even third level, who have a really low CVI number for that quadrant — they have a hard time connecting with their partners. Oftentimes they’re the practical...
The Gottmans use a picture of a house to symbolize different aspects of your relationship with your significant other. The very top of that house? Creating shared meaning and making each of your life-long dreams come true! Couples who invest in each other’s dreams...
If you know your Core Values, you know that every value has a unique negative side: that unhealthy strategy you slip into when you’re faced with a particularly uncomfortable conflict. Recently, at our Enticing Intimacy workshop, I was reminded how easily and...
