Contempt: The Deadliest of the Four Horsemen

When things have really deteriorated in your relationship, a peculiar phenomenon can occur. You start to reside in what’s known as ‘negative sentiment override,’ which basically means you start to believe that your partner only thinks negatively of you. You believe that whatever they say is tinged with contempt of you — and you return that contempt in kind. The Gottmans have discovered Read more about Contempt: The Deadliest of the Four Horsemen[…]

Preparing For The Holidays: Settle For MORE

“There is more in us than we know if we could be made to see it; perhaps, for the rest of our lives we will be unwilling to settle for less.” – Kurt Hahn We’re often told that we should be willing to settle for less at the holidays: less business, less consumerism, less money spent, less Read more about Preparing For The Holidays: Settle For MORE[…]

Visioneering Could Save Your Relationship

Have you and your significant other ever come up against a decision that was nearly impossible to agree on — because you each have differing views of what your future could look like? This happens to almost every couple at least once in their relationship; sometimes it’s a frequent occurrence. That’s why we designed our Visioneering retreat — to help Read more about Visioneering Could Save Your Relationship[…]

What is Visioneering?

We’ve got a powerful visioneering workshop coming up on Sept. 28th! Won’t you join us? What’s visioneering? Think about it this way: Would you launch a business without a vision?  What happens when you lose your vision? What do you do when things change in your life or your relationships and that vision has to change or be Read more about What is Visioneering?[…]

This September, Hit The “Refresh” Button

Well, the kids are all back to school, and I’m reminded of what a spirit of new beginnings fall brings. We’re all refreshed after the summer, and there’s a certain comfort in coming back together — getting back into a structure and routine. It might be a good time to evaluate: What structures would you like to Read more about This September, Hit The “Refresh” Button[…]

How To Attune To Your Partner

Attuning to your partner emotionally is one of the most important ways to build a lasting connection of trust and safety. We all need to know that our feelings are understood — even if they might be a little irrational. What’s especially important to remember as you attune to your partner is this:Empathizing with their emotions Read more about How To Attune To Your Partner[…]

How Caring For Aging Parents Can Affect Your Relationship

As you may or may not know, my father-in-law, Eric’s father, recently passed away. There was a long period of our life that was dedicated to his care; in fact, as time went on, more and more of our time was centered around taking care of him. We’re very thankful we had this opportunity to care for Read more about How Caring For Aging Parents Can Affect Your Relationship[…]

When “Just A Little” Adds Up To A LOT

Raise your hand if this sounds familiar: You’re out with a friend. You told your spouse you’d be home by 8 to help with the kids, but they’re in the middle of a pretty serious discussion. You don’t want to cut them off, so you stay just a little longer. 8:15 will be fine, right? Or maybe Read more about When “Just A Little” Adds Up To A LOT[…]

How To Speak Your Partner’s Language

I was working with a couple recently, and they were getting stuck on an issue that plagues a lot of us. One partner, let’s call her Lily, was much less interested in romance than her husband (let’s call him Rich). Rich wanted to go on dates with his wife, get out of the house, go out to Read more about How To Speak Your Partner’s Language[…]