An Attitude of the Heart: JOY!

Joy is defined as: 1 a :  the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires :  delight b :  the expression or exhibition of such emotion :  gaiety 2 :  a state of happiness or felicity :  bliss 3 :  a source or cause of delight Alright, that sounds[…]

Expectations Vs. Hope

Expectations. As you hear this word in your mind, what does it conjure for you? For me, it brings up feelings that aren’t really that positive. Honestly, it just reminds me how much I fear disappointment. It’s a slippery slope, isn’t it? On one hand, there is something wonderful about the anticipation of what’s to come —[…]

3 Powerful Questions to Ask After An Affair

Over the last 6 months I have been working with more and more couples who are recovering from an affair–some who had even drawn up divorce papers. It often makes me wonder about the recovery Sabrina and I went through dealing with the affair that hit us. Why were we able to heal, and even have a[…]

A Word From Eric: On Intimacy

Okay, with the word intimacy, what comes into your mind? If you are a guy, you might be thinking of your wife or girlfriend giving you that look–you know the one–that has a bit of a tease telling you that she desires you as much as you want her. Hold on–you’re dreaming again! That only happens when[…]

Recovering From An Affair

As a counselor and a coach, Sabrina and I are often asked, “How long will these feelings of hurt last?” That’s a tough question to answer. We offer a lot of resources for just that, and we also refer many couples to BeyondAffairs.com as another great source of counseling and classes through this process. Affairrecovery.com[…]

Let’s Talk About Freedom

Freedom! That’s what we celebrate this weekend, isn’t it? But what about freedom in our relationships? Well, the very best relational freedom is not that different from the freedom our country enjoys. Certainly we are independent from the sovereignty of the British government, but are we truly independent? I think not. It’s a global economy, after all, and[…]

Relationships: There’s An App For That!

Have you ever been frustrated that your partner just doesn’t understand your needs? Or are you perhaps on the flip side of that — does your partner often complain that you just don’t understand them? This is a common dichotomy easily explained by your Core Values. Those of us who are highly motived by love[…]

Why Self-Care Matters For Your Relationships

What about does self-care have to do with intimacy? This week I feel like I’ve come out of a long, Portland winter hibernation. After months of enjoying the coziness of this chilly season, all of a sudden I want to be outside. All the time! The nicer weather just entices me out there, and then I’m remembering why[…]

Go On An Adventure!

When was the last time you and your significant other did something a little wild? A little out-there? When did you throw caution to the wind and head out on an adventure together? Adventure can look very different to different couples. Maybe your adventure is found in mountain trails, or at the beach. Maybe it’s[…]