CVI; negative self; counseling

When You’re Stuck In Your Negative Self

If you know your Core Values, you know that every value has a unique negative side: that unhealthy strategy you slip into when you’re faced with a particularly uncomfortable conflict. Recently, at our Enticing Intimacy workshop, I was reminded how easily and unknowingly that strategy can take over. When we’re feeling defensive and vulnerable, we might not[…]

core values; flowers; flourishing

Flourishing In Your Full Potential

If you’ve taken the Core Values Index, you know that we all have a primary value and a secondary value. For example, I am primarily a Merchant, the quadrant which values Love. I am secondarily an Innovator, which values Wisdom. Some people’s top two are pretty evenly matched; they can switch between the two of them easily. Most[…]

Let’s Talk About Freedom

Freedom! That’s what we celebrate this weekend, isn’t it? But what about freedom in our relationships? Well, the very best relational freedom is not that different from the freedom our country enjoys. Certainly we are independent from the sovereignty of the British government, but are we truly independent? I think not. It’s a global economy, after all, and[…]

Protecting The Good Times

Welcome to Summer! It’s finally here: the season of good times, relaxing days, warm memories. The season of enjoying the outdoors, of picnics and wine tasting, of long drives through the country and watching the sunset so much later than before. Summer is perhaps my favorite season! My only problem? It simply flies by too[…]

The Happiness Chart

Last week, we talked about whether or not happiness is a choice. Can we choose to be happy, after all? Well, when I discovered this chart by colleague Paul Smith, it seemed like the perfect follow up. Below are practical, every day things we all have the power to do to increase our level of joy,[…]

Can You Change Your Character?

This week I’ve read two books that have proven to be pretty interrelated: Working with Emotional Intellegence by Daniel Goleman and Integrity by Henry Cloud. Both of these books are excellent reads for anyone who wants to build on their effectiveness in any relationship — and really, every aspect of life! One fascinating point Goleman makes is[…]

Making YOUR Impact!

This quarter in our classes, Eric and I are studying Personal Assessment. Specifically,we’re examining the cultural impact we hope to have with our lives and work. I couldn’t help but think about the difference Core Values makes in our world! Many people know the CVI has been around for decades in the business world, helping to develop strong[…]