dancing, relationships, couples counseling

Dancing Cheek To Cheek!

When our first son got engaged, Eric and I started taking dance classes. At the time, our only goal was not to embarrass ourselves at our children’s weddings! But, you might not be surprised to hear, it actually transformed our relationship in some surprising ways. I learned to close my eyes as Eric led me, and that[…]

Why “We Never Fight” Is A Bad Sign

We’ve all heard someone say it — we might have said it ourselves at some point: “We’re perfect together. We never fight!” But when someone says that to me, it’s a big red flag. You never fight? Really? First of all, unless you’ve been dating for less than a week, I’m not sure I believe you.[…]

An Attitude of the Heart: JOY!

Joy is defined as: 1 a :  the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires :  delight b :  the expression or exhibition of such emotion :  gaiety 2 :  a state of happiness or felicity :  bliss 3 :  a source or cause of delight Alright, that sounds[…]

Escape the Negative Cycle

When couples don’t see eye to eye, it’s easy to take offense, get defensive, shut down, put up walls, or even jump to worst case scenarios. Believe me, we all fall into one or more of these traps–even great marriages can slip into these negative cycles. They are our natural, human tendency, even though we know we need[…]

3 Powerful Questions to Ask After An Affair

Over the last 6 months I have been working with more and more couples who are recovering from an affair–some who had even drawn up divorce papers. It often makes me wonder about the recovery Sabrina and I went through dealing with the affair that hit us. Why were we able to heal, and even have a[…]

A Word From Eric: On Intimacy

Okay, with the word intimacy, what comes into your mind? If you are a guy, you might be thinking of your wife or girlfriend giving you that look–you know the one–that has a bit of a tease telling you that she desires you as much as you want her. Hold on–you’re dreaming again! That only happens when[…]

10 Habits of Happy, Healthy Couples

While we always love sharing our stories with you, every once in a while we come across another article we simply have to share. Bustle.com recently released a post titled “10 Habits That All Happy, Healthy Couples Have.” Every single point is spot on, insightful, and it’s a funny read to boot. We know that as our readers[…]

Recovering From An Affair

As a counselor and a coach, Sabrina and I are often asked, “How long will these feelings of hurt last?” That’s a tough question to answer. We offer a lot of resources for just that, and we also refer many couples to BeyondAffairs.com as another great source of counseling and classes through this process. Affairrecovery.com[…]

Hold Me Tight

In her incredible book, “Hold Me Tight,” Sue Johnson emphasizes the need for our beloved to literally hold us tight–to cuddle often, and in doing so to consistently feel very close. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you probably already agree with this sentiment. I know I do! But perhaps you can relate to the issue I always bump up[…]