The Addiction Of Love

The part of the brain that gets triggered by cocaine is the same place we get triggered by romantic love. The difference being, of course, that you get to come down from cocaine — but you can’t come down from romantic love too easily. As this Ted Talk explains (take the fifteen minutes to watch it), Romantic[…]

The PTSD Couple

This weekend, I was at the Gottman Institute for PTSD and Affair Recovery. This training, in correlation with a previous training on Addiction recovery in couples therapy, is truly becoming one of the most powerful ways to help couples. As I reflect on the couples I work with who have been affected by trauma, I realize many of[…]

Escape the Negative Cycle

When couples don’t see eye to eye, it’s easy to take offense, get defensive, shut down, put up walls, or even jump to worst case scenarios. Believe me, we all fall into one or more of these traps–even great marriages can slip into these negative cycles. They are our natural, human tendency, even though we know we need[…]

Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

When a couple is recovering from an affair, re-establishing trust is the key component. If you’ve been hurt by this betrayal, you are probably asking: will it ever get better? Will I ever be able to trust again? Sometimes, even in situations that weren’t an affair exactly–like porn addiction or substance abuse–can still feel just as devastating. In all these cases, building[…]

Relationships: There’s An App For That!

Have you ever been frustrated that your partner just doesn’t understand your needs? Or are you perhaps on the flip side of that — does your partner often complain that you just don’t understand them? This is a common dichotomy easily explained by your Core Values. Those of us who are highly motived by love[…]