lack of communication

For When You Don’t Feel Appreciated

We’ve been talking a lot recently about gratitude, and expressing appreciation for your partner. Appreciation can be especially hard when you don’t feel that gratitude in return — when you just feel taken for granted, especially if you’ve been making an such an effort to be loving! That feeling is one of the worst. And,[…]

gratitude

Expressing Gratitude

Last week, we talked about practicing gratitude for your loved one by tuning your heart to appreciation. But what about when it comes to expressing that gratitude? Being able to express gratitude and appreciation is the next step in this process, and a pretty important step for your relationship! Expressing gratitude doesn’t have to be verbal, either. This is[…]

dealing with stress

How Do You Respond To Your Partner’s Stress?

How do you respond when your partner is stressed?  It’s a difficult situation, isn’t it? If our partner’s encountering high levels of stress, that can affect every aspect of our relationship with them. It’s easy to want to take that stress for them, to absorb it as your own as a way to help. When they’re stressed,[…]

It’s Almost Here!

It’s almost here! If you are looking for a fresh, encouraging connection with your partner — if you want to start your summer dreaming, and building your vision together with hope and support — then join us for our next Enticing Love workshop, coming your way June 23-24.  This 1.5 day workshop starts with an[…]

Ay, There’s The Rub: Core Values & Conflict

“Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make a difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is ATTITUDE.” These wise words by William James, the famous American philosopher, are the perfect place to start talking about conflict. When we look at our Core Values, we begin to understand why[…]

dancing, relationships, couples counseling

Dancing Cheek To Cheek!

When our first son got engaged, Eric and I started taking dance classes. At the time, our only goal was not to embarrass ourselves at our children’s weddings! But, you might not be surprised to hear, it actually transformed our relationship in some surprising ways. I learned to close my eyes as Eric led me, and that[…]

TED Talk

What Your Relationship Means To Your Children

This Ted talk speaks to a very important issue: how childhood trauma affects children throughout their lifetime. What so many people don’t understand is the damage we do to our own children when we don’t directly deal with our own issues. Whether it’s addiction, our own childhood trauma, or the inability to deal with stress[…]

Why “We Never Fight” Is A Bad Sign

We’ve all heard someone say it — we might have said it ourselves at some point: “We’re perfect together. We never fight!” But when someone says that to me, it’s a big red flag. You never fight? Really? First of all, unless you’ve been dating for less than a week, I’m not sure I believe you.[…]

An Attitude of the Heart: JOY!

Joy is defined as: 1 a :  the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires :  delight b :  the expression or exhibition of such emotion :  gaiety 2 :  a state of happiness or felicity :  bliss 3 :  a source or cause of delight Alright, that sounds[…]

Expectations Vs. Hope

Expectations. As you hear this word in your mind, what does it conjure for you? For me, it brings up feelings that aren’t really that positive. Honestly, it just reminds me how much I fear disappointment. It’s a slippery slope, isn’t it? On one hand, there is something wonderful about the anticipation of what’s to come —[…]