Expectations Vs. Hope

Expectations. As you hear this word in your mind, what does it conjure for you? For me, it brings up feelings that aren’t really that positive. Honestly, it just reminds me how much I fear disappointment. It’s a slippery slope, isn’t it? On one hand, there is something wonderful about the anticipation of what’s to come —[…]

Seven Signs You Might Be Having An Emotional Affair

If you’re a reader of this newsletter, it’s safe to assume you take fidelity pretty seriously. The last thing we want to fall into is an affair. But what many people don’t realize is that an emotional affair can be just as damaging as a physical one, although it might start with perfect innocence. If you[…]

The PTSD Couple

This weekend, I was at the Gottman Institute for PTSD and Affair Recovery. This training, in correlation with a previous training on Addiction recovery in couples therapy, is truly becoming one of the most powerful ways to help couples. As I reflect on the couples I work with who have been affected by trauma, I realize many of[…]

Rebuilding Trust After An Affair

When a couple is recovering from an affair, re-establishing trust is the key component. If you’ve been hurt by this betrayal, you are probably asking: will it ever get better? Will I ever be able to trust again? Sometimes, even in situations that weren’t an affair exactly–like porn addiction or substance abuse–can still feel just as devastating. In all these cases, building[…]

3 Powerful Questions to Ask After An Affair

Over the last 6 months I have been working with more and more couples who are recovering from an affair–some who had even drawn up divorce papers. It often makes me wonder about the recovery Sabrina and I went through dealing with the affair that hit us. Why were we able to heal, and even have a[…]

A Word From Eric: On Intimacy

Okay, with the word intimacy, what comes into your mind? If you are a guy, you might be thinking of your wife or girlfriend giving you that look–you know the one–that has a bit of a tease telling you that she desires you as much as you want her. Hold on–you’re dreaming again! That only happens when[…]

10 Habits of Happy, Healthy Couples

While we always love sharing our stories with you, every once in a while we come across another article we simply have to share. Bustle.com recently released a post titled “10 Habits That All Happy, Healthy Couples Have.” Every single point is spot on, insightful, and it’s a funny read to boot. We know that as our readers[…]

Recovering From An Affair

As a counselor and a coach, Sabrina and I are often asked, “How long will these feelings of hurt last?” That’s a tough question to answer. We offer a lot of resources for just that, and we also refer many couples to BeyondAffairs.com as another great source of counseling and classes through this process. Affairrecovery.com[…]

Hold Me Tight

In her incredible book, “Hold Me Tight,” Sue Johnson emphasizes the need for our beloved to literally hold us tight–to cuddle often, and in doing so to consistently feel very close. Chances are, if you’re reading this, you probably already agree with this sentiment. I know I do! But perhaps you can relate to the issue I always bump up[…]