lack of communication

For When You Don’t Feel Appreciated

We’ve been talking a lot recently about gratitude, and expressing appreciation for your partner. Appreciation can be especially hard when you don’t feel that gratitude in return — when you just feel taken for granted, especially if you’ve been making an such an effort to be loving! That feeling is one of the worst. And,[…]

cognitive personality type

For Those Cognitive Types

If you’re a cognitive person, your highest core values are knowledge and wisdom. You love designing programs and processes, you love collecting knowledge, and you are, no doubt, remarkably intelligent. The only problem? You tend to spend a lot of time in your head, and have less patience for the more expressive types. There are[…]

community

For Those Community-Centered Types

If you’ve noticed that your Core Values Index has a particularly high Community rating, you are someone who knows people deeply. You build many meaningful, powerful friendships, some of which go back quite a long time. But your struggle can come in knowing how to invest your time. You want to be there for everyone,[…]

independent personality

For Those Independent Types

Are you one of those people that is just fine doing projects on your own? In fact — maybe that’s the way you prefer it? You’ve got your ideas of how to do things, you’re perfectly capable of solving problems yourself, and you want to get things done. You’re a self-starting independent worker, which means working at length[…]

For Those Creative Types

Last week we talked about Banker/Builder — the types with a more practical, get-er-done force pushing them onward. But if you are Merchant or Innovator, based in Love and Wisdom, chances are you like to think outside the box — or you might at least like to decorate it! You are usually an empathic, compassionate person; we[…]

Ay, There’s The Rub: Core Values & Conflict

“Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make a difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is ATTITUDE.” These wise words by William James, the famous American philosopher, are the perfect place to start talking about conflict. When we look at our Core Values, we begin to understand why[…]

Are You and Your Partner Compatible?

This is a question so many couples ask us when they come to our conferences, or enter into counseling, is: “If our Core Values are so different, how can we be compatible?” But the fact of the matter is compatibility has nothing to do with whether your Core Values are the same. Compatibility is much[…]

TED Talk

What Your Relationship Means To Your Children

This Ted talk speaks to a very important issue: how childhood trauma affects children throughout their lifetime. What so many people don’t understand is the damage we do to our own children when we don’t directly deal with our own issues. Whether it’s addiction, our own childhood trauma, or the inability to deal with stress[…]