cognitive personality type

For Those Cognitive Types

If you’re a cognitive person, your highest core values are knowledge and wisdom. You love designing programs and processes, you love collecting knowledge, and you are, no doubt, remarkably intelligent. The only problem? You tend to spend a lot of time in your head, and have less patience for the more expressive types. There are[…]

community

For Those Community-Centered Types

If you’ve noticed that your Core Values Index has a particularly high Community rating, you are someone who knows people deeply. You build many meaningful, powerful friendships, some of which go back quite a long time. But your struggle can come in knowing how to invest your time. You want to be there for everyone,[…]

independent personality

For Those Independent Types

Are you one of those people that is just fine doing projects on your own? In fact — maybe that’s the way you prefer it? You’ve got your ideas of how to do things, you’re perfectly capable of solving problems yourself, and you want to get things done. You’re a self-starting independent worker, which means working at length[…]

For Those Creative Types

Last week we talked about Banker/Builder — the types with a more practical, get-er-done force pushing them onward. But if you are Merchant or Innovator, based in Love and Wisdom, chances are you like to think outside the box — or you might at least like to decorate it! You are usually an empathic, compassionate person; we[…]

dealing with stress

How Do You Respond To Your Partner’s Stress?

How do you respond when your partner is stressed?  It’s a difficult situation, isn’t it? If our partner’s encountering high levels of stress, that can affect every aspect of our relationship with them. It’s easy to want to take that stress for them, to absorb it as your own as a way to help. When they’re stressed,[…]

Fourth of July

Rituals of Connection

Since we’re on a streak this month with Gottman methodology (I just got certified, and I am loving it — can you tell?) let’s talk about rituals of connection. In our busy day and age, a lot of more traditional rituals of connection get lost in the bustle. Personally, I love holidays; I love setting[…]

Gottman Love Mapping

Why Love Mapping?

Remember that Gottman Relationship house? Well, the very first floor of the relationship house in Gottman is something called “love mapping.” Have you heard of it? Love mapping is an intentional check-in to really make sure you know your partner deeply. It’s kind of like body mapping: If you understand how your body works, you[…]

Ay, There’s The Rub: Core Values & Conflict

“Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make a difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is ATTITUDE.” These wise words by William James, the famous American philosopher, are the perfect place to start talking about conflict. When we look at our Core Values, we begin to understand why[…]