relationship stress

Refiguring Your Partner’s Identity

A lot of times when a relationship goes through a big reveal — someone had an affair years ago, or they’re addicted to some substance — it can feel like your partner is suddenly a completely different person. How could this person you thought you knew so well have such a secret? And how can[…]

Seven Signs You Might Be Having An Emotional Affair

If you’re a reader of this newsletter, it’s safe to assume you take fidelity pretty seriously. The last thing we want to fall into is an affair. But what many people don’t realize is that an emotional affair can be just as damaging as a physical one, although it might start with perfect innocence. If you[…]

Surviving An Affair Means: Taking Responsibility

Yesterday, I posted this video to our Facebook page about how some couples are able to survive affairs others aren’t. The professor they interviewed hit the nail on the head: getting through infidelity, together, is all about taking responsibility. Part of that is allowing the hurt partner the chance to heal by being truly transparent, vulnerable, honest. No blame of any kind[…]

Recovering From An Affair

As a counselor and a coach, Sabrina and I are often asked, “How long will these feelings of hurt last?” That’s a tough question to answer. We offer a lot of resources for just that, and we also refer many couples to BeyondAffairs.com as another great source of counseling and classes through this process. Affairrecovery.com[…]