Self Care Is Not For You

You’ve probably heard it before: Are you practicing self-care? Are you actively seeking out routines for your everyday life that will lower your stress levels? Daily self-care routines can include journaling, meditation, naps, reading a fun book, soaking your feet in epsom salts, drinking a cup of tea alone, aromatherapy — the list can go[…]

Why Self-Care Matters For Your Relationships

What about does self-care have to do with intimacy? This week I feel like I’ve come out of a long, Portland winter hibernation. After months of enjoying the coziness of this chilly season, all of a sudden I want to be outside. All the time! The nicer weather just entices me out there, and then I’m remembering why[…]

How to Avoid The Toxic Cycle of Thought!

I did not want to bother with the resolution this year. Instead, I am taking time to focus and tune into what I want 2016 to be about. I want it to be about change…BIG change! And so far, so good, because this week…Eric and I start our doctoral work. YES! No resolution…just a doctorate.[…]

We All Need to Quit This One New Year’s Tradition

Well, it’s coming: The New Year. And with it, the obligatory flood of emails, blogs, soundbites, and ‘inspirational’ self-help books to remind you that you’d better make some resolutions. It’s a new year! Fresh start! Make goals! Make them huge, unattainable, unrealistic goals — that’s the whole point! The cultural obsession we have with self-improvement[…]

The Many Ways We Connect

The Many Ways We Attach and Why its So Important I’ve been thinking a lot about attachment lately. Perhaps it is because I am working with a master educator/counselor who is an expert on attachment. In my last post I promised I would tell you about the book I was reading: The Neurobiology of We[…]

Brush off the Dust and Keep Running!

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a toxic thought cycle? I know that often, when I make a mistake, I find myself overwhelmed with shame and guilt–I spend more time beating myself up about it than trying to actually recover. It becomes a vicious cycle repeating itself. But what if that toxic cycle lost[…]