Gottman Love Mapping

Why Love Mapping?

Remember that Gottman Relationship house? Well, the very first floor of the relationship house in Gottman is something called “love mapping.” Have you heard of it? Love mapping is an intentional check-in to really make sure you know your partner deeply. It’s kind of like body mapping: If you understand how your body works, you[…]

Your relationship house

What’s In Your Attic?

The Gottmans use a picture of a house to symbolize different aspects of your relationship with your significant other. The very top of that house? Creating shared meaning and making each of your life-long dreams come true!   Couples who invest in each other’s dreams have been proven to be masters of relationships. What does[…]

Enticing Love Couples Retreat

Warning: Creating default object from empty value in /home/corevalu/public_html/wp-content/plugins/event-espresso/templates/event_post.php on line 60 August 5, 2016 – August 6, 2016 3505 Pacific Ave Map and Directions | Register Description: A 1.5-day seminar designed for you to understand yourself and your spouse better, know how to love each other better and by the end of the seminar[…]

Why Self-Care Matters For Your Relationships

What about does self-care have to do with intimacy? This week I feel like I’ve come out of a long, Portland winter hibernation. After months of enjoying the coziness of this chilly season, all of a sudden I want to be outside. All the time! The nicer weather just entices me out there, and then I’m remembering why[…]

Don’t Forget To ASK

These past few weeks Eric and I have been assessing our community by ASKING others what they see happening that is good, where the needs are and what breaks their hearts for relationships. It’s a cold-call process that’s part of our doctoral study, and it’s been fascinating. But the most unexpected aspect is how it’s[…]

Taking Inventory

Eric and I recently started an adventure: a doctoral program with Bakke Graduate University for Transformational Leadership! These two weeks have been an incredible journey already and it’s an astonishing delight to me how much our current courses relate to our work — and can also relate to your life. This term we are studying[…]

Healing Together

How can our own wounds, despite being painful, become powerful healing compounds to our relationship? It’s kind of mysterious how this works. Shared pain is actually a way to mobilization. Moving through the pain of the wound together is a way to not only support each other, but to help you both see that you are in[…]

How Does A Relationship Fall Apart?

Have you ever wondered how a once healthy and vital relationship can hit the skids? We all know it doesn’t happen overnight, but do we know how it begins to erode away? Of course, it can happen in a million different ways, but the most significant one I’ve noticed in my practice is a lack of[…]

Rising Strong

Whenever you do something out of your comfort zone, especially in relationships, it can be very difficult to deal with the after effects. As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I have been reading “Rising Strong” by Brene Brown, PhD, which deals with this very topic. I’ve always been inspired by her writing, but this[…]