cognitive personality type

For Those Cognitive Types

If you’re a cognitive person, your highest core values are knowledge and wisdom. You love designing programs and processes, you love collecting knowledge, and you are, no doubt, remarkably intelligent. The only problem? You tend to spend a lot of time in your head, and have less patience for the more expressive types. There are[…]

community

For Those Community-Centered Types

If you’ve noticed that your Core Values Index has a particularly high Community rating, you are someone who knows people deeply. You build many meaningful, powerful friendships, some of which go back quite a long time. But your struggle can come in knowing how to invest your time. You want to be there for everyone,[…]

independent personality

For Those Independent Types

Are you one of those people that is just fine doing projects on your own? In fact — maybe that’s the way you prefer it? You’ve got your ideas of how to do things, you’re perfectly capable of solving problems yourself, and you want to get things done. You’re a self-starting independent worker, which means working at length[…]

Stepping Into Your Builder May Help With Anxiety

I’ve noticed in my practice that those who have the lowest rate of anxiety and stress-related issue are Builders. Builders have the confidence to get things done that precludes anxiety; they inherently have faith in themselves, and believe they have the power to do what they need to do without even thinking about it. Oftentimes in talking[…]

For Those Creative Types

Last week we talked about Banker/Builder — the types with a more practical, get-er-done force pushing them onward. But if you are Merchant or Innovator, based in Love and Wisdom, chances are you like to think outside the box — or you might at least like to decorate it! You are usually an empathic, compassionate person; we[…]

relationship apps

Practicing Your Emotional Intelligence

One thing I’ve noticed lately is that people who are not merchants in their first, second, or even third level, who have a really low CVI number for that quadrant — they have a hard time connecting with their partners. Oftentimes they’re the practical people; that’s their contribution, being incredibly practical and cognitive. But it often leaves them having more difficulty connecting[…]

Your relationship house

What’s In Your Attic?

The Gottmans use a picture of a house to symbolize different aspects of your relationship with your significant other. The very top of that house? Creating shared meaning and making each of your life-long dreams come true!   Couples who invest in each other’s dreams have been proven to be masters of relationships. What does[…]

CVI; negative self; counseling

When You’re Stuck In Your Negative Self

If you know your Core Values, you know that every value has a unique negative side: that unhealthy strategy you slip into when you’re faced with a particularly uncomfortable conflict. Recently, at our Enticing Intimacy workshop, I was reminded how easily and unknowingly that strategy can take over. When we’re feeling defensive and vulnerable, we might not[…]