A Different Kind Of Valentine’s Day

Reposted from our newsletter, February 8th — subscribe here! Every Valentine’s Day, we all tend to do the same sort of thing. Something romantic. And of course, romance is essential for a healthy relationships. Which is why we’re suggesting something different. Sometimes the best way to build romance in your own relationship is help others find space for[…]

goals

What Goals Are You Setting Together?

There are plenty of books and blogs out there entirely focused on setting (and accomplishing) goals. These are an excellent resource, and setting goals for your own personal growth or your career are OF COURSE important! I’d even say essential, to be honest — if you’re not setting goals, what are you working towards? What’s[…]

Schedule Rest

Please Take An Actual Break

For those of us with kiddos, winter vacation has happily begun! Many out there will get at least a few days off of work for this season, and while you’re at it, I must implore you: Please take an actual break. Too often I see my clients taking ‘breaks,’ wherein they’re bringing work home and[…]

Gottman Love Mapping

Why Love Mapping?

Remember that Gottman Relationship house? Well, the very first floor of the relationship house in Gottman is something called “love mapping.” Have you heard of it? Love mapping is an intentional check-in to really make sure you know your partner deeply. It’s kind of like body mapping: If you understand how your body works, you[…]

It’s Almost Here!

It’s almost here! If you are looking for a fresh, encouraging connection with your partner — if you want to start your summer dreaming, and building your vision together with hope and support — then join us for our next Enticing Love workshop, coming your way June 23-24.  This 1.5 day workshop starts with an[…]

Ay, There’s The Rub: Core Values & Conflict

“Whenever you are in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make a difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is ATTITUDE.” These wise words by William James, the famous American philosopher, are the perfect place to start talking about conflict. When we look at our Core Values, we begin to understand why[…]

dancing, relationships, couples counseling

Dancing Cheek To Cheek!

When our first son got engaged, Eric and I started taking dance classes. At the time, our only goal was not to embarrass ourselves at our children’s weddings! But, you might not be surprised to hear, it actually transformed our relationship in some surprising ways. I learned to close my eyes as Eric led me, and that[…]

Are You and Your Partner Compatible?

This is a question so many couples ask us when they come to our conferences, or enter into counseling, is: “If our Core Values are so different, how can we be compatible?” But the fact of the matter is compatibility has nothing to do with whether your Core Values are the same. Compatibility is much[…]

TED Talk

What Your Relationship Means To Your Children

This Ted talk speaks to a very important issue: how childhood trauma affects children throughout their lifetime. What so many people don’t understand is the damage we do to our own children when we don’t directly deal with our own issues. Whether it’s addiction, our own childhood trauma, or the inability to deal with stress[…]

Why “We Never Fight” Is A Bad Sign

We’ve all heard someone say it — we might have said it ourselves at some point: “We’re perfect together. We never fight!” But when someone says that to me, it’s a big red flag. You never fight? Really? First of all, unless you’ve been dating for less than a week, I’m not sure I believe you.[…]