Supporting Your Partner’s Dreams

When you’ve been in a long-term relationship for, well, a pretty long time, it’s common to develop a rhythm, a schedule, a sense of what’s ‘normal’ for your life together. And when your partner suddenly decides they want to change that normalcy with a new dream or goal, it can feel pretty disconcerting. Maybe you’re used to having[…]

Taking Time To Log Off — Because You ARE Important

I’ll just say it: we all have gotten into the habit of using our phones too much. It’s hampering our relationships to the point that ‘together alone’ is a common catchphrase. It’s understandable; I do it, too! Our phones are enticing, with emails, social media, shopping online, videos…but they’re also brain-numbing and isolating. We, myself included, look at[…]

What To Do When You Suspect Your Partner

As we discussed on our blog from last week, social media can provide a temptation to the best of us. But what do you do if you suspect that your partner has already made those connections? This can be a horrible feeling. But, first of all, resist the urge to try and ‘catch them out.’ This is your partner, not your[…]

holidays

The Question Game: Holiday Edition!

Have you had an open-ended conversation with your partner about what you expect from the holidays? This is a conversation so many couples skip, and in doing so both sides tend to make assumptions that can cause stress and conflict down the line. What are your hopes and expectations for the holiday season? How can[…]

gratitude

Expressing Gratitude

Last week, we talked about practicing gratitude for your loved one by tuning your heart to appreciation. But what about when it comes to expressing that gratitude? Being able to express gratitude and appreciation is the next step in this process, and a pretty important step for your relationship! Expressing gratitude doesn’t have to be verbal, either. This is[…]

Thanksgiving

Practicing Gratitude

As we get ready for one of my favorite holiday, I’m reminded of the value of gratitude in your relationships.  According to Gottman research, the most successful way to turn around contempt in your relationship is with intentional appreciation. But if you’re having a stressful time with your partner, it can be hard to even know where[…]

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Practicing Your Emotional Intelligence

One thing I’ve noticed lately is that people who are not merchants in their first, second, or even third level, who have a really low CVI number for that quadrant — they have a hard time connecting with their partners. Oftentimes they’re the practical people; that’s their contribution, being incredibly practical and cognitive. But it often leaves them having more difficulty connecting[…]