holidays

The Question Game: Holiday Edition!

Have you had an open-ended conversation with your partner about what you expect from the holidays? This is a conversation so many couples skip, and in doing so both sides tend to make assumptions that can cause stress and conflict down the line. What are your hopes and expectations for the holiday season? How can[…]

lack of communication

For When You Don’t Feel Appreciated

We’ve been talking a lot recently about gratitude, and expressing appreciation for your partner. Appreciation can be especially hard when you don’t feel that gratitude in return — when you just feel taken for granted, especially if you’ve been making an such an effort to be loving! That feeling is one of the worst. And,[…]

gratitude

Expressing Gratitude

Last week, we talked about practicing gratitude for your loved one by tuning your heart to appreciation. But what about when it comes to expressing that gratitude? Being able to express gratitude and appreciation is the next step in this process, and a pretty important step for your relationship! Expressing gratitude doesn’t have to be verbal, either. This is[…]

Thanksgiving

Practicing Gratitude

As we get ready for one of my favorite holiday, I’m reminded of the value of gratitude in your relationships.  According to Gottman research, the most successful way to turn around contempt in your relationship is with intentional appreciation. But if you’re having a stressful time with your partner, it can be hard to even know where[…]

cognitive personality type

For Those Cognitive Types

If you’re a cognitive person, your highest core values are knowledge and wisdom. You love designing programs and processes, you love collecting knowledge, and you are, no doubt, remarkably intelligent. The only problem? You tend to spend a lot of time in your head, and have less patience for the more expressive types. There are[…]

community

For Those Community-Centered Types

If you’ve noticed that your Core Values Index has a particularly high Community rating, you are someone who knows people deeply. You build many meaningful, powerful friendships, some of which go back quite a long time. But your struggle can come in knowing how to invest your time. You want to be there for everyone,[…]

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For Those Independent Types

Are you one of those people that is just fine doing projects on your own? In fact — maybe that’s the way you prefer it? You’ve got your ideas of how to do things, you’re perfectly capable of solving problems yourself, and you want to get things done. You’re a self-starting independent worker, which means working at length[…]

Stepping Into Your Builder May Help With Anxiety

I’ve noticed in my practice that those who have the lowest rate of anxiety and stress-related issue are Builders. Builders have the confidence to get things done that precludes anxiety; they inherently have faith in themselves, and believe they have the power to do what they need to do without even thinking about it. Oftentimes in talking[…]